November 25th, 2010
A shocking insight into a truely corrupt legal system which is responsible for the long term physical and emotional suffering of innocent men whose only `crime` was to fall in love, get married and have children - clearly this is wrong.
This legal system supports inequality and gender discrimination and has resulted in bankruptcies, prison sentences and, most regrettably, suicide.
Any system that allows this to happen must be challenged.
A thoroughly informative but heartbreaking read.
November 23rd, 2010
After reading the book and having experienced the injustice of our justice system firsthand, Molly Murphy has shown her expertise and knowledge of how the Courts work.
Winner Take All is a “road map” to the perils and hardships that people face when dealing with the Family Courts.
It is a an excellent book, that would be beneficial to both men and women and I would highly recommend this book for anyone having to deal with the Family Court System.
November 16th, 2010
When I was only two years old my mother divorced my father and then proceeded to leave the province after securing full custody of me. I was continually exposed to her hate towards my father; and as a result I followed her lead. I grew up believing that my father was a deadbeat dad, which only worsened my anger towards him and strengthened my resolve to have nothing to do with him.
The older I got, the more I was filled with hate for my father. Whenever he phoned and attempted to engage me in conversation I would take those opportunities to verbally abuse him. The funny thing was that even as I was saying horrible things to him, he always remained calm, telling me just how much he loved me and that one day I would finally come to understand the truth.
A few months ago I came across a book which helped to begin to shine a light on that truth. The book is called Winner Take All and it is the story of three men from very different backgrounds who are all going through divorce and have been painfully and abruptly alienated from their children’s lives. I really felt connected to these three men as I read their stories because I myself am now a father to a beautiful little girl, and I couldn’t begin to imagine the horrifying loss I would feel if I was suddenly and without warning thrust out of her life forever.
In reading Winner Take All I was introduced to the concept of “Parental Alienation” which as I was to learn involves one parent purposefully brainwashing a child into emotionally turning against the other parent without any true justifiable cause. “Had this happened to me”, I thought to myself. I decided that the next time my father called that I would finally listen to his side of the story.
What he eventually told me changed much of what I thought to be true. I found a man who was nothing like I expected, a man who was first to admit his wrongs and last to condemn my mother. We are now working towards healing our father-son relationship after a 20 year void. I now actually look forward to his calls and for the first time in my life I am turning to him for answers. For those of you who are wondering, like I did, if you have possibly been the victim of parental alienation, please read Winner Take All. Set aside your anger and go into this with an open mind. You never know what you might discover. Thank God there are two sides to every story, as I was happy enough to learn after reading Winner Take
November 12th, 2010
Upon reading this book, I was not all that shocked at most of the occurrences. This is because I have been there, seen it all. What dawns on me is that the average person will not find the book believable because they are sheltered from what happens with the family court system, they are unaware of how it works and who it works for. The children are not getting a fair deal with the current system, non-custodial nor custodial parents are not getting treated correctly. Lawyers, judges, court officials….. they are getting rich on the backs of our already at risk children. These at risk children will grow up and make another bunch of lawyers and judges rich. The only winners in a family court battle are the ones who are trusted to overlook it. What a shame for our whole culture. Books such as the one Molly wrote will hopefully one day bring light to a very dark part of our system.
November 10th, 2010
What can I say about this book? Well, having been dragged though the Family Law System myself, I can tell you that it’s very well written and its truth in its purest form.
What this book did do for me was to insure, when I was entering into a new relationship after my divorce was to gain a better understanding of my partner(s). I say this because I almost ended up getting close with another woman who seemed to suffer from a Personality Disorder. People who suffer from this ailment are just as good at what they do, as those who operate Ponsie schemes, because it’s just another fashionable way of gaining your trust.
This book is for the person who is looking into a “Life” relationship, because it will educate you on what you could potentially face should that relationship go south. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that it never will.
November 10th, 2010
“Winner Take All” is a must-read for any adult who is going through a separation or divorce, or for those who simply have friends and family going through the ordeal.
For those readers who are personally going through this tumultuous time, this book will be an eye-opener as to the severity of the dysfunction that is found within our Family Courts. Of course, this can be good or bad, since the stories contained in “Winner Take All” will move any reader who has a conscience to feel for the three real-life stories of the men involved; and the reader’s old wounds will undoubdtedly be opened up as well, as were mine. On the bright side, the reader will know that he or she is not alone, since these stories are repeated day in and day out in Family Court – to both men and women.
For the readers who have experienced our Family Court system only second-hand – through friends and family - taking in the wisdom, as well as the heart-wrenching real-life stories found in this book, will help you to understand the extreme emotional pain caused to parents who have lost the ability to share with their children the love and affection that they have for each other. If nothing else, you will be moved to show greater compassion for what these alienated parents have had to endure.
Brad Charlton – Proud father of four beautiful children
November 9th, 2010
As both a bachelor and a professional, I have dedicated the better part of my life to my career. After reading WINNER TAKE ALL, I now clearly see that everything that I’ve built is ‘up for grabs’. I found the book to be powerfully written and informative. My eyes are wide open. It’s time for the politicians who support this corruptly discriminating system, quaintly known as Family Law, to be held accountable. Chris C, Ontario
November 5th, 2010
Molly Murphy’s book “Winner Take All “,is a true confirmation that the Family Law System abuses and neglects fathers of divorce. Having a family member going through a divorce, I have also witnessed how the Family Law Act can break down a wonderful father; totally strip him of all of his pride, finances, rights, home and a great relationship he had with his children. The book explains how fathers can lose everything and have to sit back and watch the ex wives, lawyers and court systems suck everything out of them that might be left. Molly’s book tells us of 3 men close to her that have tragically gone through the unethical divorce path from our Canadian Legal System. These fathers have dealt with parental alienation, ex wives ignoring court orders, being falsely accused of abuse while ex wives continue to get away with it. The book exposes the hushed fact that Fathers are becoming homeless and some even committing suicide from the way they are handled within the Family Law System.
While reading this book you will be drawn into feeling all of the sadness, disgust, heartache and abuse that these fathers go through. A reader will be changed forever. I believe Molly’s book should be read by every young man entering into a relationship or already in one.
Thank-you Molly for writing this book!
P.B. (name withheld for the safety of the children)
October 24th, 2010
Molly’s writing style in Winner Take All cuts to the core, and pulls no punches when it comes to making sense of what is wrong with our system of Family Law today. The book eloquently exposes the tragedy, pain and hardship that our family court system cruelly and unnecessarily inflicts on already emotionally fragile individuals going through divorce.
Molly Murphy helps us all to understand that in order for things to change everyone affected by divorce, and this includes second spouses and grandparents, all need to unite as one powerful, collective voice that voraciously advocates against the judicial injustice that is pervasive today when it comes to the breakdown of marriages and common law relationships alike.
Whether you are married, thinking of getting married, are in a common law relationship or are single, the information that Molly shares in this book is invaluable information. If you are thinking of getting this book, I only have one thing to tell you…get it!
October 23rd, 2010
Winner Take All-Testimonial
Reading this book will rock your entire world as nothing else will. You will honestly think you are reading the next best seller of fiction. When you realize it is real; you will wonder how in a country like Canada this can possibly be happening.
If our family was not living it; I do not know if I would believe it.
Someone suggested that my son read this book because of what he is currently going through in the family and criminal court system in London, Ontario. So I went out and purchased it for us right away. Yes, his family court fight has ended up in criminal court due to false charges alleged to the police by his ex-wife.
We have both read it and after crying from sadness because of what the 3 men in Molly’s story have gone through; we then cried from relief (now we know we are not crazy). My son and I have said along that his case was a best seller in the making but after reading “Winner Take All” we see that it has been written by Molly. We honestly thought that Molly had followed my son around and wrote his story.
One of my gifts (after working for 34 years for the federal government) is my ability to read legislation and actually understand it. And if you read this legislation and if this legislation was applied the way it should be-it has the potential to be almost fair. I do not know if it is only London, Ontario that applies this legislation only in the women’s favor but I have never seen a piece of legislation so abused by the legal system that is suppose to apply it; used by the special women’s groups such as Victim Services and used as a gun by most of the ex-wives to make their ex-spouses pay (in every way-emotionally, financially and legally) with their very lives.
As a mother of 3 sons and grandmother of 8, I will make sure that each and every one of my family and every person that I know and will meet in the future is educated on the unjust, unfair and criminal way that the very protectors (police, judges and lawyers) of our laws abuse the system that they were sworn to uphold.
I do not yet know how else I will get this message out but I can guarantee you that I will do everything in within my power of influence and control to get this blind abuse of the family law known and hopefully changed.